Tuesday, June 1

The two new research papers at the U of Michigan show new proof of genetically involvement in OCD.

Brain imaging studies show that glutamate is one of the brain chemicals that play a part in OCD. Previous studies have revealed differences in glutamate levels in those with OCD and those without. The gene SLC1A1 is known as a “transporter gene” for glutamate. Some people’s brains may restrict different levels of glutamate based on differences in the “SLC1A1” gene. This could make some people more at risk for OCD.

This new discovery could lead towards better understanding and treatment


Thursday, December 4

A World of Codependency

Nations have an economic co-dependent relationship with other nations.

Countries like China and Saudi Arabia have an economic codependency with the United States, for instance. These countries are dependent with the US for weapons and/or foreign markets. The result being that if one country’s dollar was to change its dependant’s dollar changes as well.

China hopes to end its single reliance on the US by buying throughout the Shanghai Cooperative Organization, but there is a risk also. If you break codependency with one, you form codependency with another.

One reason why Codependents shouldn't feel alone: The rest of the world is right there with them.


Friday, March 9

Thoughts of a Codependent

Characteristics of Codependency

  • Please don’t let anything I say lead to a confrontation. I’ll do anything.
  • I can’t stop focusing on your well being and solving your problems.
  • I feel great when I solve your problems and give you what I think you need.
  • All those funny things that you do you do simply to spite me. To manipulate my feelings and desires.
  • If you’re ok. I’m ok…
  • When I feel good about myself, it is because you like me and approve of me.
  • Every bit of my mind is given to you. I need to protect you and have just a little control over you.
  • Are my values ok? What’s your opinion about my opinion?
  • I see myself years from now, doing what’s best for you.
  • I will be perfectly happy doing what YOU want to do.
  • All my hopes and dreams are not as important as spending time with you.
  • If I give you whatever you want, you’ll let me be happy, right?
  • It’s not important that my friends are less and less these days. At least I still have you.
  • I know what you are thinking and feeling because I know you so well.
  • Rather then pleasing me I would rather please you.


Friday, September 22

A Whole New Perspective

So far this blog's focus has been on bringing the current, codependent related news to the readers in as simple and factual ways as I could. But I'm sorry to say...not many people seem to care. (clears throat).

I have decided...enough is enough. It's time for me to stop trying to be a news source and talk a little more about life. Of course I'm always up for suggestions.

To begin…

I have been working in the day-training field with adults with developmental disabilities for the past year. I have made one incredible connection with a person on the mid to lower end of the Autism spectrum. One of the things I envy most in my new autistic friend is how little he "seems" to care about what I think about him. I wonder if he ever even thinks about my emotions and thoughts.

As strange as it sounds to myself when I say it, I Love It. What a great relationship to have with someone. I don’t need to pretend. In fact the more I pretend the more inconsistent I am and the more my relationship suffers. I can pack away all sorts of character traits I have developed that will never be addressed in this relationship. I don’t need to show sadness because I will not be comforted. My jokes won’t be laughed at so I might as well stop trying to be funny.

The closeness I experience with my friend took seven months of physical and emotional torment, but I found my place. I have learned to respect the fact that he has "it" more figured out then I do. I can not get in his head, nor can he in mine. I do sometimes wonder if he looks at me like a computer program. I serve whatever function he has given me, and occasionally I have bugs and need to be re-booted. The first 7 months I spent with him he was simply writing my program into his system. What buttons he needs to push to satisfy his needs.

As a codependent I don’t mind one bit. At least he is honest about his codependency and doesn’t spend one minute hiding it. He has taught me to take life as it comes and be happy about the little things. The color of my candy, the smell of burnt food, the magnitude of a loud noise, and the amazement of a rain; are all seen with new eyes thanks to my new friend.

In every relationship learning is vital. Without it good-byes are just empty. Who in my life serves what function? Who in my life does not serve the function I thought they did? And where have I been wrong all along.

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