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www.coda.org/
www.MindsAndK9s.org
http://www.recovering-couples.org/
The Codependent’s Survival Kit does not evaluate or rate the individual self-help groups, nor products advertised with-in, which are contained in the blog. Therefore, the Codependent’s Survival Kit’s listing of a self-help group or product does not constitute an endorsement of that group or product. Neither does omission signify disapproval. The use of any information is entirely the responsibility of the reader.
Friday, June 17
Sunday, June 5
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I am currently working out the kinks in this website to make it as user-friendly as possible. Please check back soon and the website will be up and running. If you have any suggestions or if there is anything you would like to know about Codependency. Email me at CodeSurvKit@gmail.com
Thank You,
Patrick
Thank You,
Patrick
Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples
How do we know if we need help?
“Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples” are listed below to help couples identify problem areas in their relationships. A couple does not have to relate to all of these characteristics to admit that the relationship is suffering, or to seek help. These Characteristics serve to identify relationship issues. They help us know “we are not alone” in our struggle to find healthy intimacy.
Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples
-Being together and unhappy is safer than being alone.
-It is safer to be with other people than it is to be alone and intimate with our partners.
-If I really let my partner know what I’ve done or what I’m feeling and thinking (who I am), he/she will leave me.
-It is easier to hide (medicate) our feelings through addictive/compulsive behavior than it is to express them.
-Being enmeshed and totally dependent with each other is perceived as being in love.
-We find it difficult to ask for what we need, both individually and as a couple.
-Being secure is equal to being intimate.
-We either avoid our problems or feel we are individually responsible for solving the problems we have as a couple.
-We believe that we must agree on everything.
-We believe that we must enjoy the same things and have the same interests.
-We believe that to be a good couple we must be socially acceptable.
-We have forgotten how to play together.
-It is safer to get upset about little issues than to express our true feelings about larger ones.
-It is easier to blame our partners than it is to accept our own responsibility.
-We deal with conflict by getting totally out of control or by not arguing at all.
-We experience ourselves as inadequate parents
-We are ashamed of ourselves as a couple.
-We repeat patters of dysfunction from our families of origion.
For more information visit http://www.recovering-couples.org/
This page was copied with permission from Recovering Couples Anonymous Outreach Brochure.
“Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples” are listed below to help couples identify problem areas in their relationships. A couple does not have to relate to all of these characteristics to admit that the relationship is suffering, or to seek help. These Characteristics serve to identify relationship issues. They help us know “we are not alone” in our struggle to find healthy intimacy.
Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples
-Being together and unhappy is safer than being alone.
-It is safer to be with other people than it is to be alone and intimate with our partners.
-If I really let my partner know what I’ve done or what I’m feeling and thinking (who I am), he/she will leave me.
-It is easier to hide (medicate) our feelings through addictive/compulsive behavior than it is to express them.
-Being enmeshed and totally dependent with each other is perceived as being in love.
-We find it difficult to ask for what we need, both individually and as a couple.
-Being secure is equal to being intimate.
-We either avoid our problems or feel we are individually responsible for solving the problems we have as a couple.
-We believe that we must agree on everything.
-We believe that we must enjoy the same things and have the same interests.
-We believe that to be a good couple we must be socially acceptable.
-We have forgotten how to play together.
-It is safer to get upset about little issues than to express our true feelings about larger ones.
-It is easier to blame our partners than it is to accept our own responsibility.
-We deal with conflict by getting totally out of control or by not arguing at all.
-We experience ourselves as inadequate parents
-We are ashamed of ourselves as a couple.
-We repeat patters of dysfunction from our families of origion.
For more information visit http://www.recovering-couples.org/
This page was copied with permission from Recovering Couples Anonymous Outreach Brochure.
Saturday, June 4
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The Codependent’s Survival Kit does not evaluate or rate the individual self-help groups, nor products advertised with-in, which are contained in the blog. Therefore, the Codependent’s Survival Kit’s listing of a self-help group or product does not constitute an endorsement of that group or product. Neither does omission signify disapproval. The use of any information is entirely the responsibility of the reader.
The year 2005 date’s used to mark posts are not the date the post was published. Dates are changed in order for the information to appear at certain parts of the post. All dates marked 2005 were actually written in 2006.
Terms of UseThis web site with its home page in the domain http://co-dependency.blogspot.com (the "Website") is a complimentary information service offered by the “The Co-dependent’s Survival Kit” (“CDSK”) at no charge to users of the World Wide Web, with the express condition that these users agree to be bound by the terms and conditions set forth in this User Agreement. “The Co-Dependent’s Survival Kit” reserves the right to change these terms and conditions any time, and you must consult the most recent version of this User Agreement (not an older cached version) each time you view the Website. Use of this Website constitutes your acceptance of all of the following terms and conditions.
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